Christian marriage, without the theory.
Ricardo Martins and Vanessa Lima write every day about restoration, betrayal and forgiveness, communication and keeping Christ at the center of the home — as people who hit the bottom and came back.
When Only One Spouse Wants Marriage Counseling
You want help for your marriage, but your spouse says “we don’t need that.” Ricardo Martins explains, from Scripture and research, why spouses resist counseling, how to invite without pressure, and what to do if the answer stays no.
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Reconciliation After Separation: Practical and Spiritual Steps
Getting back together after a separation isn't hitting a reset button. Ricardo Martins shows, from Scripture and research, the practical and spiritual steps of a reconciliation that doesn't rebuild the same marriage that broke.
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How to apologize for real (it’s not “sorry if I hurt you”)
“I’m sorry if I hurt you” isn’t an apology — it’s a way to end the conversation. Ricardo Martins shows, from Scripture and research, what separates a real apology from an empty one in marriage.
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Fewer Children, Later Motherhood, Fewer Weddings: What the Church Needs to Hear From Brazil
A Globo Repórter feature shows how Brazilian women now study longer, delay motherhood, and have fewer children, from more than six per woman in the 1960s to 1.55 in IBGE's 2022 Census. Ricardo Martins reflects on what this says about marriage, men, and faith.
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Roommate marriage: when routine quietly kills intimacy
You share a house, a mortgage, and the kids’ calendar, but you no longer share a life. Ricardo Martins explains how routine turns husband and wife into roommates and shows, from Scripture and in practice, the way back to your first love.
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Marriage after burnout: when a husband breaks on the inside
Burnout doesn't just wreck a man's career, it empties his home. Ricardo Martins, who has been through burnout himself, speaks to the exhausted husband and to the wife living beside him about what to do when a man breaks on the inside.
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How Often Is Enough? What the Research Says About Sex and Marital Satisfaction
What five peer-reviewed studies — more than 30,000 people, 26,000 survey respondents, and couples followed for up to 14 years — actually found about sexual frequency, affection, and marital satisfaction, with the numbers, the limits, and what it means for Christian couples.
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Biblical submission is not silence: the voice of a wise wife
A lot of Christian women were taught that being submissive means swallowing everything and keeping quiet. Ricardo Martins walks through Proverbs 31, 1 Peter 3, and the story of Abigail to show that the Bible never asked for a silent wife, it asks for a wise one.
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When the Bills Come Due, What Protects a Couple? New Study Points to Comfort Before Solutions
A University of Florida study published in Personal Relationships found that financial stress spills over into romantic relationships — and that a partner's emotional support reduces that spillover. Ricardo Martins comments on what it teaches Christian couples.
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Servant leadership in marriage: what Ephesians 5 really says
Too many husbands have turned Ephesians 5 into a weapon. Ricardo Martins shows what the passage actually asks of the man, why leading in marriage means stepping down rather than taking charge, and what Christlike leadership looks like at home.
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Nearly 1.7 Million Brazilian Children Registered Without a Father's Name in Ten Years: A Message to Men Everywhere
Data from Brazil's civil registry association (Arpen-Brasil) shows 1,666,882 children were registered with only their mother's name between 2016 and 2026 — yet voluntary paternity acknowledgments are rising. Ricardo Martins comments on what this says about men, marriage and the heart of God.
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Pornography in marriage: what to do when you find out
You saw the browser history, the screen, or you heard the confession. Now what? Ricardo Martins walks wives and husbands through the first days after pornography comes to light, without denying the pain or giving up on restoration.
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