Christian marriage, without the theory.
Ricardo Martins and Vanessa Lima write every day about restoration, betrayal and forgiveness, communication and keeping Christ at the center of the home — as people who hit the bottom and came back.
Emotional affairs: when a conversation becomes infidelity
No kiss, no hotel room, but the heart has already moved out. Ricardo Martins explains what an emotional affair is, the signs a friendship has crossed the line, and how to come home before a conversation turns into destruction.
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Children don't save a marriage: the “let's have a baby” myth
Having a baby to fix a struggling marriage puts a weight on a child that only God can carry. Drawing on Leah's story in Genesis, Ricardo Martins explains why children are a blessing but not glue, and what actually rebuilds a covenant.
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Faithful Christian Couples Have the Happiest Marriages in America: What the New Report Proves (and What It Doesn't)
A new Institute for Family Studies report, "The Devout Difference," finds churchgoing couples are happier, divorce less and have more active intimate lives. Ricardo Martins comments on what the data means for anyone fighting for their marriage.
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In-laws, family of origin, and healthy boundaries in marriage
Honoring your parents is not the same as letting them run your marriage. Ricardo Martins explains what the Bible says about in-laws and how to set healthy boundaries without dishonoring anyone.
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Money and marriage: why the fight is never really about money
It starts with the credit card statement, but it's almost never about the credit card. Ricardo Martins unpacks what money reveals in a marriage — fear, control, respect, trust — and how to turn the fight into a conversation with Christ at the center.
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98% of Brazilian Women Change Their Routine Out of Fear: Is Your Home a Refuge or Another Risk?
A new survey by Brazil's Patrícia Galvão and Locomotiva institutes shows 98% of women adopt daily strategies to avoid violence, and six in ten fear domestic violence. Ricardo Martins comments on what that asks of every married man.
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Gottman's Four Horsemen: What 15 Minutes of Conflict Reveal About a Marriage
What John Gottman and Robert Levenson's research actually found about criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling — sample sizes, numbers, and limits — and what it changes for Christian couples.
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Sex in Christian marriage: what the church doesn't teach
For years the church said "wait" and rarely explained what happens after the wedding. Ricardo Martins talks — pastorally, without being crude — about what the Bible actually says about intimacy in marriage.
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Fighting fair: biblical rules for conflict in marriage
A healthy marriage isn't a marriage without fights — it's a marriage that knows how to fight. Ricardo Martins shares seven biblical rules for arguing without destroying each other, and how to come back when it goes too far.
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How to pray for your marriage when you feel nothing
Praying for your marriage with no feeling, no faith and no desire left isn't hypocrisy — it's obedience. Ricardo Martins offers a simple path back, with four short prayers that fit into a real day.
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In the U.S., Single Young Men Now Outnumber Married Ones Two to One
New Institute for Family Studies data shows 30.4 million unmarried men ages 20-39 in the United States in 2025, against 15.4 million married men. Ricardo Martins comments on what that number really says — and what it asks of those of us who are already married.
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The husband who disappeared inside his own home: presence, not perfection
Some men never walk out — they just stop showing up. Ricardo Martins explains how a husband disappears inside his own house, why he hides, and the way back, which starts with presence instead of perfection.
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